{"id":3452,"date":"2004-09-04T14:04:00","date_gmt":"2004-09-04T18:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.followgreg.com\/revdonaldng\/?p=3452"},"modified":"2020-12-24T14:05:34","modified_gmt":"2020-12-24T19:05:34","slug":"communication-for-healthy-households","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.followgreg.com\/revdonaldng\/communication-for-healthy-households\/","title":{"rendered":"Communication for Healthy Households"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Communication for Healthy Households<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2004 Family Camp<\/p>\n\n\n\n

September 4-6, 2004<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning Session 1<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Saturday, 7:30-8:15 PM (45 minutes)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Building a healthy household requires that we learn to be better listeners and model good communication skills. Over the weekend, we\u2019ll examine how we communicate with our family members and learn to improve. As parents, we will learn how to better communicate with our children and as children and youth, you will learn how to better communicate with your parents. In Ephesians 5:21, we read, \u201cBe subject to one another out of reverence for Christ.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Skits<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Summarizing Learnings<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all need to be understood\u2014children and parents alike.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As parents, we can embody \u201cProblem Personalities.\u201d (Page 12)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As parents, we use \u201cConversation Stoppers.\u201d (Page 19)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Show our Book Resource<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Review the \u201cFour Commandments of Communication.\u201d (Page 18) Copies of the book will be given to the parents afterward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Closing Prayer<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning Session 2<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunday, 10:00-11:30 AM (90 minutes)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last night we learned that parents also have a need to be understood. Since we are older and bigger most of the time, our prejudices and points of view can become barriers to our ability to understand the feelings and thoughts of our children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We wear sunglasses, shading what we hear them saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Activity<\/strong>: Sunglasses Cut-outs<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Input<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share \u201cIneffective Listening Habits\u201d\u2014selective listener and pretend listener (page 13)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Small Groups<\/strong>\u2014\u201cUnderstanding Ages and Stages\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parents group themselves according to children who are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        Early Childhood<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        Elementary<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        Junior High<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        Senior High<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        College<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        Young Adults<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Review the descriptions of your child in the book. (Pages 21-25) What did you learn about your child\u2019s stage of life? What did you learn from each other as parents? Look over the \u201cTips\u201d for Communicating\u2026\u201d at the end of Chapter 2. (Pages 29-32)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Input<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share about how the father knows each of his sons in the Prodigal Son<\/em> parable in Luke 15:11-32. The father empowered his children by simply allowing them to learn from their mistakes\u2014giving them responsibilities and then holding them accountable (and granting grace\u2014undeserved love). Share \u201cEmpowering Your Child\u201d instead of enabling or rescuing them. (Page 25-26)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Break<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Small Groups<\/strong>\u2014\u201cLearning Your Child\u2019s Communication \u2018Style\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parents group themselves according to how you perceive your child to be either \u201cshy\u201d or \u201cassertive.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read over the descriptions of the two kinds of children and discuss how you see your child fitting into these characteristics. (Pages 33-35)  Look over the \u201cTips for Communicating\u2026\u201d at the end of Chapter 3. (Pages 39-40)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Input<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share \u201cKnowing Your Child\u2014and Yourself\u201d (Pages 35-36)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Schedule one to one \u201ctalk times\u201d with your child. ) Page 39)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Closing Prayer<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning Session 3<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Monday, 10:0-11:30 AM (90 minutes)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The point is that we as parents can change from eliminating barriers such as \u201cproblem personalities\u201d and ineffective listening habits to improve communication at home. Besides eliminating barriers, we can acquire new to listen more actively and effectively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yesterday, we educated ourselves about our child\u2019s developmental stages and we became more familiar whether our child is \u201cshy or assertive.\u201d Today\u2019s session will focus on what we can do to acquire some basic skills to bridge our relationship with our child through 3 habit changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Activity<\/strong>: Skits<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            1. Habit #1: Take off your sunglasses and translate what you hear. (Page 42)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Focus on translating instead of interpreting<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            2. Habit #2: Be attentive to your children. (Page 43)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Focus on listening attentively including body languages<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            3. Habit #3: Practice the skill of lightly probing. (Page 44)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Focus on removing the layers to your child\u2019s feelings\u2014permitting all feelings to be expressed<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inventory<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do the inventory on how attentive you are on page 47. Score the results and discuss with your spouse or others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Input<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share the Boy Jesus in the Temple<\/em> in Luke 2:41-51 when Jesus\u2019 parents tried to communicate with Jesus. He was growing up, rebelling, and coming of age. Mary was trying to \u201cstay on the inside\u201d of Jesus\u2019 life but found it to be difficult. Jesus did come home and the Scriptures said Jesus was obedient to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share \u201c12 Ways to improve Communication in Your Home\u201d (Page 48)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            And \u201c10 Ways to \u201cStay on the Inside\u201d of Your Child\u2019s Life\u201d (Page 49)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Summary<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As parents, we are once again reminded that we need to live in a circle of influence (Stephen Covey) rather than a circle of concern where we are always reacting to events and circumstances. We fail to plan ahead and end up \u201cputting out fires.\u201d  (Page 5)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The writer of this book, Jim Williams in the beginning section talked about following the \u201cNorth Star\u201d versus the \u201cArtificial Star.\u201d The North Star keeps you on corse, the moral center of the family, or the core beliefs, values, and principles that you help your family stay on course God wants you to follow. (Page 5)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The artificial star represents the values of the popular culture that leads our children do what feels good rather than what is right, pursue instant gratification rather than practice delayed gratification and proper timing; and look out for \u201cnumber one\u201d rather than for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The North Star can best be rooted in the Ten Commandments (Deut. 5:6-21), the Golden Rule (Mt. 7:12), the new commandment of Jesus (Mt. 22:37-40), and the love chapter (1 Cor. 13) as well as other passages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To clearly articulate your \u201cNorth Star,\u201d drafting a \u201cFamily Mission Statement\u201d may help. It will capture your core family values. On pages 19-20, there are guidelines for you to write a statement with your children involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Closing Prayer<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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